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by Scot McKay - Dating Coach
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ok so i agree to an extent but what about the males part in why a girl turns into a sociopath??? Ive been sleeping with a 36 yr. old and Im 39. He tells me he loves that Im a bitch and slips out he just loves me in genereal i dont take drunk talk as written in stone.. next day he gets physically abusive??? explain that pleaseWell, that sort of unacceptable behavior cannot be explained...which is part of what makes it sociopathic. This article was actually written for a primarily male audience, but that's not to say that men are by any stretch exempt from being psycho. It's "equal opportunity". I would, however, avoid blaming someone else for one's own psychopathic tendencies. I believe in taking personal responsibility for one's actions.
how about when your boyfriend used to be in prison for 10 years, would that make him a psycho? I noticed that he usually have different moods and won't share to me his problems...is the relationship worth keeping?Linda only you can answer that question since I don't know the entire scenario. But what I wrote definitely applies to men also.why would you date a person who has been in prison for 10 years...ask yourself who is psycho in case...(clue..it's not him)
I was a little offended by your remarks about bipolar-like characteristics. I myself have bipolar disorder and your description shows your lack of knowledge on the subject. It does not make you crazy or unworthy of love; it is an illness that needs to be dealt with just like diabetes or cancer. If someone is doing all they can to control it but still relapses, it is not his or her's fault. It just takes someone who is strong, understanding and emotionally mature to be with an individual with bipolar, which you are obviously not.Like a recent Bipolar sufferer here that is/was a radio jock, 15 years he`s been in trouble for this and that, Xmas party he gropped four different women after that its the same old same old "I WILL CHANGE" lindsey stay medicated and stay off the grog
Hello Lindsey. While I understand that the general theme of this article may be a particularly sensitive one to you, I believe you are applying an "if/then" train of thought to this piece that's born of logical fallacy. The only place I mentioned bipolar disorder was in the context of pointing out what followed was not a means to diagnose it. Indeed, your comments indicate quite a myopic and self-absorbed viewpoint that discounts the simple fact that bipolar disorder is but one of a myriad of classifications of mental illness. The simple truth is that some such diagnoses are characterized by much more dire social effects. If you prefer to be offended, feel free to remain that way, but be advised of two things: 1) Both my current wife and I went through excruciating divorces from people we each respectively made valiant efforts to hold a family together with. Both exes are currently on the same anti-psychotic medication. In my case, my ex made the decision to leave, then come back, then leave, then come back for as long as I was willing to subject everyone involved to such a pattern. Only so much damage can be inflicted before "strength, understanding, and emotional maturity" give way to utter foolishness and wanton emotional damage to innocent children. 2) While psychosis is certainly not anyone's fault, and I myself have publicly made the connection between it and any other illness such as diabetes in that very regard, I will stand by my opinion that long-term relationships with those who do not possess an ability to be reasonable and/or who are an emotional or physical threat should be avoided--preferably at the front-end before any commitment happens. Fortunately, and ironically considering your assertions, others marvel at my and my wife's ability to forgive our exes and not harbor any bitterness. How could we? As you said, it would be like blaming someone for being diabetic. But there's a very big difference between forgiveness and subjecting oneself unreasonably to mutual damage.
Wow, this article rings so true of someone I dated, especially numbers 4 and 5. She was a hottie and was flattered she wanted to go out with me, but then started noticing uncool things. After awhile, I believed she was bi-polar and asked her to go to counselling before more dating and she wanted me to go to counselling so I could get more serious about getting married!! Here are my highlights:1. Wanted me to have lunch with her parents after three dates and got upset when I told her it was too early.2. Our first big fight was that I wanted to go out and watch Monday Night Football with my boyz (I definitely was not seeing anyone else) even tho I had taken her out both the previous Fri and Sat night. When I told her we could talk about it the next day and went out anyway, I had 17 phone messages that ranged from yelling to crying if I was alive yet.3. Outright told me to dump all my friends because she had just done the same thing. We weren't supposed to see friends and only each other.4. Definitely called me every day at work, sometimes twice, and got mad when I asked her to not to call so much and I could call her after work.5. Actually yelled at me in a restaurant when I didn't want to order appetizers. She wanted one that she liked and I told her to order it and asked if I wanted it. I told her no but go ahead and order it if she wanted it (I was paying and I always did). She started yelling at me about why I didn't want or like them.6. Of course, I broke up with her and the calls and contact increased dramatically and more yelling at me and crying and asking why I broke up with her. When I brought up these (and other) examples, then she would get more mad.7. About a year after that, I got a call at 1am from her, crying, stating she didn't think life was worth living without being with me. I tried getting her to call the suicide hotline (I did) and found out the next day from mutual friends it was the guilt me to go back out with her.She had real issues that I didn't see coming and needed help before getting involved with anyone. She ended up dating a buddy of mine within two weeks and made me wonder if she wasn't already seeing him on the side or something.I have a different buddy who married a woman similar to this and was divorced five years later and had to get restraining orders against her. Just helps to know this stuff up front before you get involved or married! There are a lot of other people out there who may be the one!
Omg!!! so true!! everything written here... oh and bipolar chick... dont be so offended, I dont think Scott was taking a Jab at you.I dated a psycho chick for 2 years, before I realized how psycho she trully was, I can genuinely say I was in love with her, But as time went on she got more and more psycho, She would accuse me of cheating, lying, not caring about her, well pretty much anything a super psycho needy chick would say. One day she got so intoxicated she took a liquor bottle to her head threatening to kill her self because I wasnt who she wanted me to be for not giving her enough attention.... she ended up whipping the bottle on the floor and calling me ridiculous names... I didnt resort to yelling back or attacking, I just listened to her rant and cry about god knows what..... I remember feeling like I could not fall asleep for fear that she would kill me... She was completely out of control, at one point I dialed the cops but hung up just before she noticed me calling for fear that she would lose it worse before they got there... the next morning when she was super hung over, I kindly asked her to hand over my apartment keys, and I asked her to take all her belongings with her, to my surprise, she must have been so hung over that she did so.... I am worried she will start with psycho messages soon... fun times. My first psycho chick ever, and I've been with many women. I just dont think I was experienced enough with psycho chicks... I know better now. A good friend of mine once told me never to date women who hate their fathers. I shoulda listened....
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