Is This What A Male Role Model Is Supposed To Look Like?
Posted: Saturday, June 20, 2009
by Scot McKay - Dating Coach
X & Y Communications
Recently I had the rare and highly sought-after chance to go over some market research done by MTV networks. In it, the state of the modern man was broken down into fine detail. I mean, this research must have cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to produce.
Yet there it wason my desktop. Obtained by purely legitimate means.
"Over 50% of all North American men, across all socio-ethnic demographics and regardless of age, DO NOT HAVE AN IDENTIFIABLE ROLE MODEL."
Let that sink in for a while.
In other words, MOST of us have NO IDEA what a REAL MAN even LOOKS like.
The more I thought about it, the more I started to realize that MTV's money might actually have been well spent. As hard as it is to admit, I believe what's written in their report to be an accurate statement.
Being immersed as I am in what I do for a living, I've found myself thinking a lot about that haunting statistic as I look around at what's being taught in the Seduction Community.
Even in that epic conversation I had with Zan Perrion for The Master Plan, the concept came up: We're being told that the "yardstick" by which we might measure "success" as a man is the guy in a bar or club who can get the most phone numbers.
And outside the Seduction Community?
Whoever is the NBA MVP, hip-hop artist du jour or actor in the latest action flick is who we tend to hold up as wanting to be likeat least for the moment while we're watching that particular "channel".
It has been fifteen years now since then NBA all-star Charles Barkley proclaimed "I am not a role model", thereby stirring controversy.
Given the intent behind Sir Charles' words, I don't see where the "controversy" is. As he basically said, he's not supposed to be raising other parents' kidsTHEY are.
But even today nothing has changed. We still behold guys who do cool OUTWARD stuff, and decide they're the ones who we want to be like.
And the guy on TV, the silver screen, the basketball court-or yes, the club-CAN'T TEACH US HOW TO BE A MAN.
They can only do something we wish we could do. It's all "outer game".
So what do we do? We try to emulate what we see, and even if we are successful at doing so we're still left EMPTY.
That's because deep down within us, at our INNER CORE, nothing changed.
Listen, it's NO JOKE that more and more high-profile pickup-artists and seduction teachers are doing things like GETTING MARRIED and FATHERING CHILDREN.
That's because after you master pickup, and after you realize you can get phone numbers, you're still left wanting MORE.
And in this case "MORE" means a history with a great woman. Having that great woman back you 1000% in your ambitions. And maybe even having the legacy of a great kid or two.
Let me tell you, watching my boy Scot Jr. grow up as CLEARLY a "chip off the old block" is as sobering as it is amazing.
I love watching him grow and do terrific things. It's immensely rewarding.
But the SOBERING part is that it's UP TO ME to make sure he doesn't become a "statistic".
One of the most meaningful things to me in life is that my boy is going to have a TRUE role model, even if it takes all of my energy to be that guy for him.
And you know what? As long as I breathe oxygen (and probably beyond) the die has been cast. That boy sees me as his role model ALREADY whether I like it or not.
The craziest part of all? Watching me interact with my son makes Emily hot. Wowit's like catnip.
Why do I tell you this?
Because if YOU want to start making women WANT you-and I'm talking about GENUINE high quality women of character here-then you'd BETTER NOT be a "statistic" either.
You had better rise above average. Because "average" hasn't a CLUE what REAL MAN looks like.
And, following logically, "hasn't a clue" TURNS OFF high quality women.
Do you want to know why women are joining together in the battle cry of WANTING THEIR MEN BACK? I've just explained it to you.
But here's the good news. It's never too late to "go back in time" and recover what BELONGS to you alreadyyour birthright as a man who was BORN to attract women.
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