When It Comes To Dating, Don't Be A "Schleprock"
Posted: Wednesday, September 30, 2009
by Scot McKay - Dating Coach
X & Y Communications
If you have no idea who "Schleprock" was, don't feel bad. You kind of have to have been a kid in the 70's to have an idea.
You've probably heard of "The Flintstones" though, of course. Fred and Barney live on in syndicated popularity some forty years after first gracing prime time TV back in the 60s (yesthe show originally was targeted at all ages).
Now to say that bad luck followed Schleprock would be an understatement. Basically a dark cloud LITERALLY followed the guy everywhere. And whenever he showed up, you could be ALL BUT SURE something rotten was about to happen.
As far as personality is concerned, picture "Eeyore on steroids" and you aren't too far off.
Decades later, the show has been all but relegated to the vault, but Schleprock himself has become archetypal in a weird sort of way.
Maybe you've seen the movie Boiler Room, and remember how Ben Affleck dismissed the first casualty during the classic "group interview" scene by saying, "C'mon, let's go Schleprockout!"
But I think some of us have gotten to the point where we identify with Schleprock just a little too closely.
ESPECIALLY when it comes to women.
Believe me, I hear the sob stories detailing "limiting beliefs" all the time.
Guys all over the world believe that they're not good enough to attract a high quality women. And even if they believe they are, for some reason they're under the impression that all these crazy women just don't-and won't-like them back.
Dozens of times over I've heard the mantra, "I guess I just have no luck with women".
Well here it is, Schleprock. You do NOT have a "dark cloud" following you around. Not in real life, at least.
Don't get me wrong, I won't begin to doubt that there are TONS of guys out there-possibly even reading this newsletter-who have experienced the Schleprock-like phenomenon of BAD STUFF seeming to happen around them ALL THE TIME.
But luck has NOTHING to do with it.
And that's the BEST NEWS possible. Because, you see, that means (as is the case with most issues with women we as guys face) you can DO SOMETHING about it.
Let me just spell it out for you.
I believe "The Schleprock Factor" follows a very predictable formula. And here it is:
NEGATIVITY + IRRESPONSIBILITY = SCHLEPROCK
At the risk of underscoring what may be altogether self-evident from that equation itself, let's break it down a bit.
When we have a NEGATIVE attitude, we essentially lack confidence, don't we? We see a situation and expect the worst. We see a task before us, and we naturally presume ultimate failure upon it.
And following logically, we project that kind of failure on others also.
Call it a "poverty mentality" or whatever, but whether our vision for others to fail is driven either by our discomfort with their success OR by a genuine assumption of negative outcome, it really doesn't matter.
The ramifications are the same: NOBODY IS GOING TO PARTICULARLY ENJOY HANGING OUT WITH US.
This goes DOUBLE for MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex). After all, confidence is one of the "Big Four".
And on top being a BUMMER, negativity and failure have this way of being contagious. Ouch.
It's no wonder you hear so many self-help "gurus" talking about "ridding one's life of negative people". Right?
For sure, simply having a negative attitude may be enough to trigger "The Schleprock Factor".
But wait, there's more.
Compounding simple NEGATIVITY in the equation is IRRESPONSIBILITY.
You remember IRRESPONSIBILITY. That's the trait that causes younger women to IGNORE guys their own age and FLOCK to older men.
Seriouslyit's not the gray hair, man.
Irresponsibility involves making bad decisions, including both errors of omission and commission.
Being irresponsible, besides being a strong indicator that one lacks wisdom (i.e. life experience), also demonstrates that we lack SELF-RESPECT enough to guard ourselves from BAD consequences.
Think about it.
So ultimately, when you mesh a NEGATIVE outlook with BAD decision-making, you essentially blow ATTRACTION out of the picture.
In light of all this, let's go down the "Big Four" checklist and take inventory.
Let's see No confidence? No attraction.
Masculinity? Assuming the worst and having bad judgment aren't exactly the earmarks of a provider OR a protector, are they?
And when you're decision-making and self-respect are at play, how can you possibly expect to INSPIRE CONFIDENCE in a woman? Is that the kind of leadership she will gladly choose to follow?
Finally, what about character? Well, I don't exactly see Schleprock enshrined in the Great Man Hall Of Fame.
If what I'm talking about sounds like "tough love", I make no apologies.
But REMEMBER ALWAYSthe fact that YOU CONTROL "The Schleprock Factor" is GOOD NEWS.
And as always, it all comes down to deserving what you want.
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